“The goal in marriage is not to think alike but to think together.”
– Robert C Dodds
At the core of every relationship, is the need to know that your partner will show up for you in a loving and engaged way. To feel safe in an intimate relationship, you need to know that your partner will be accessible, responsive to your needs and engaged in the partnership.
Are you tired of having the same arguments over and over again? Are you feeling more like roommates than lovers or you are starting to lose hope in your connection and even wondering is this relationship meant to be? Maybe you tried couples counseling before, but it didn’t feel like the right fit.
You’re not alone. In fact, most relationships go through hard times. It is an inevitable part of going through predictable relationship stages. Most couples get into trouble because they never learned the tools and skills necessary for making a long-term relationship successful.
Regardless of where you are at currently, you have already invested so much in your relationship.
What if you don’t have to break up? What if working on these challenges in marriage therapy can actually bring you closer together?
Couples therapy helps you and your partner express your relationship needs, worries, or conflicts in a neutral and comfortable setting. Many couple’s issues are rooted in poor communication or strained connection, which often leads to marital conflict, sexual issues, infidelity or emotional withdrawal. Therapy helps to restore open communication and to recognize and release the negative emotions that are getting in the way of your relationship. Couples counseling can help you break the cycle, find common ground, and renew your relationship.
You never expected to feel lonely in your relationship. You've tried to improve things but it hasn't worked.
Now therapy seems like the last chance.
You want to feel wanted, but instead you feel:
Afraid the relationship can't be repaired.
Frustrated that you are the only one trying in your relationship.
Misunderstood for your attempts to improve things.
Afraid your needs won't ever be met in this relationship.
Anxious and worried you aren't a priority to your partner.
And ultimately, you aren't ready to give up, but you don't know what else to do.
I provide marriage counseling using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples understand each other better, communicate more clearly, and feel more emotionally close. My clients walk away from therapy with me feeling more secure in their relationships, more comfortable being themselves, and having greater confidence in their marriages.