If you’re here, chances are you’ve already put real effort into trying to make your relationship work.
And yet, things still feel hard.
You may find yourselves...
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Stuck in conversations that go nowhere, living more like roommates than partners, or feeling chronically unseen or deprioritized.
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There’s a sense of distance that keeps growing, alongside feelings of loneliness, frustration, anxiety, or grief.
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You might even be wondering whether too much damage has already been done—and whether it’s too late to change what’s happening between you.
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Communication breaks down or turns tense. You feel farther apart than you ever expected, sometimes sharing a life without truly sharing each other.
I want you to know that change is possible.
Change doesn’t happen by chance—it happens through new ways of responding to each other. With skilled support and a clear therapeutic framework, you can learn how to shift the patterns between you and become active participants in creating safer, more connected interactions with your partner.
How I Help
Over the years, I’ve worked with hundreds of couples using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an evidence-based approach to couples therapy that helps partners:
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Step out of repetitive, unproductive communication patterns
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Express difficult emotions in ways that support connection
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Rely on each other without fear or withdrawal
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Talk through challenges without escalation or shutdown
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Repair effectively after conflict or rupture
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Build a relationship that feels safer, more secure, and more trustworthy
What is EFT?
At the heart of lasting connection is emotional understanding. The way we respond to difficult emotions often determines whether we stay present with our partner or retreat into protection and distance.
EFT is widely considered the most well-researched and empirically supported model of couples therapy. Outcomes are not just about feeling better short-term. Studies show durable change in relationship satisfaction, emotional bonding, and conflict regulation. Unlike approaches that focus primarily on communication skills or behavior change, EFT works at the level of the emotional bond itself—helping couples create more secure, responsive, and resilient relationships over time.
For many couples, conflict escalates so quickly that it becomes hard to understand what you’re even arguing about, let alone how to stop it.
In EFT, we slow these moments down and identify the predictable interaction pattern that keeps pulling you apart. Instead of turning against each other, we focus on the cycle itself. By understanding the emotions and unmet needs driving this pattern, new ways of responding emerge—ones that foster closeness, trust, and repair.
EFT Can Help You Learn To:
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Understand the patterns driving relationship distress
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Work together instead of against each other
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Recognize how past attachments shape current reactions
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Regulate intense emotions
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Stay emotionally open during hard conversations
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Repair ruptures and rebuild trust
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Strengthen emotional connection over time
Step 01
To get started, log into my client portal and schedule a free 15-minute consultation. This brief call gives us a chance to assess fit, discuss what you’re looking for, and determine next steps. After scheduling, you’ll receive access to the secure portal to complete any required forms.
Step 02
INITIAL COUPLES SESSION
At our first meeting, the three of us will discuss your perceptions of the relationship challenges, strengths, communication patterns, key relationship events, and goals.
If you would like to continue, we will schedule an individual session for each person.
Step 03
Individual Sessions
In these sessions, I meet with each of you individually to better understand your relational history and the experiences that have shaped how you connect in close relationships. We explore how you tend to relate around emotions, vulnerability, and core needs, and begin identifying attachment patterns that show up in both past and present relationships.
Step 04
Beginning Stage 1: Stabilizing the Relationship
In this session, we move into Stage 1 of EFT. I’ll share feedback on your relationship patterns and outline how we’ll begin slowing conflict, identifying your cycle, and strengthening emotional safety. Together, we’ll decide whether weekly sessions or an intensive format is the best fit for supporting meaningful progress.
