You Get to Decide What Happens Next
Online Couples Therapy for Affairs, Infidelity and Betrayal
For Love That’s Worth Working On.
Whether it was an emotional affair, a sexual betrayal, or years of secrecy—something ruptured. And now you’re both left standing in the wreckage, unsure if the relationship can (or should) survive it.
Maybe one of you is drowning in guilt.
Maybe the other is trapped in panic, rage, or numbness.
Maybe you're switching roles every hour.
There’s no easy path forward. But there is a path.
I help couples make sense of what happened, why it happened, and whether repair is possible.
What You're Probably Feeling Rght Now
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“I don’t know who I’m in a relationship with anymore.”
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“Do I even want to save this?”
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“I can’t stop replaying it.”
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“They say they’re sorry, but it’s not enough.”
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“I want to move forward, but I keep getting pulled back.”
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“I feel like the worst version of myself—angry, needy, guarded, numb.”
Affairs don’t just break trust. They break the story of your relationship.
Recovery means rebuilding a new one—if that’s what you both want.
What This Work Looks Like
This isn’t about rushing into forgiveness or forcing reconciliation.
It’s about creating space to understand the meaning of the betrayal—for both of you.
We’ll work to:
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Slow things down so neither of you gets steamrolled by panic or guilt
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Explore the pattern you were in before the betrayal happened
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Help the injured partner feel seen without being told to “get over it”
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Help the involved partner take accountability without collapsing or defending
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Build new emotional safety—if there’s still a relationship worth rebuilding
Some couples stay together. Some don’t. My role isn’t to decide for you—it’s to help you make that decision from a place of clarity, not chaos.
You Don’t Have to Be Ready to Forgive.
You just have to be ready to be honest.
Still in the fallout? Or ready to figure out what’s next?
Let’s talk. I offer sessions for couples or individuals navigating betrayal trauma, ambivalence, and high-stakes repair.
FAQ: What People Get Wrong About Affair Recovery
“If they really loved me, they wouldn’t have done this.”
Love and betrayal can—and often do—coexist. Affairs aren’t always about a lack of love. More often, they’re about escape, avoidance, unspoken pain, or unmet needs that were never named. That doesn’t make it okay. It just makes it human.
“Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
Behavior isn’t destiny. But change requires accountability, insight, and repair—not just guilt. If someone’s willing to do the deeper work, betrayal doesn’t have to be the end of the story. It can be the turning point.
“If I choose to stay, I’m weak.”
Staying isn’t weak. Leaving isn’t brave. Either choice can be an act of strength—or fear. What matters is why you choose it. This work helps you find the answer that feels self-respecting, not self-abandoning.
“We just need to move on.”
Trying to “move on” without actually repairing the rupture almost always backfires. The pain doesn’t disappear—it just gets buried, then shows up in other ways: resentment, anxiety, shutdown, or control.
Real healing requires slowing down, not speeding past.
“I’ll never feel safe again.”
Right now, that probably feels true. And safety won’t be instant. But with the right support—and if both people are invested—it can be rebuilt. Not by erasing the past, but by creating new experiences that are honest, earned, and mutual.