LGBTQIA+ Couples Therapy
LGBTQIA+ Couples Therapy That Truly Gets It
Queer couples experience the same relational challenges that all couples do—communication breakdowns, recurring conflict patterns, sexual disconnection, and emotional distance. But the experience of LGBTQIA+ relationships is rarely identical to that of straight couples.
Sometimes the focus is on the relationship itself. Sometimes it’s the larger context—family dynamics, identity questions, unresolved shame, or the subtle (and not-so-subtle) effects of stigma. Often, it’s both. And both deserve space.
As an EFT-trained, trauma-informed therapist, I approach LGBTQIA+ couples therapy knowing that queerness isn’t a side note—it shapes how you’re seen, supported, and understood. It influences how you navigate intimacy, conflict, trust, and power together. I respect that your relationship may feel beautifully ordinary in many ways—and still carry a weight others don’t see.
Rewriting Roles Without a Blueprint
In same-sex and queer relationships, traditional gender roles don’t vanish—they shift. Without a preset script, couples often have more freedom to define their own structure. That freedom can be empowering, and it can also bring quiet tension or open conflict about how responsibility is shared—money, parenting, care, decision-making, and domestic labor.
Some couples lean into traditional roles. Others reject them. What matters most is creating shared understanding—how you balance power, care, and responsibility without falling into resentment or emotional distance. That’s the work of relationship repair and emotional safety.
Identity Is Alive and Unfolding
Even in long-term relationships, questions around sexual or gender identity can surface. Attraction can shift. Labels can blur. What once felt clear might suddenly feel complicated—or charged.
When one partner feels drawn toward a different kind of body or gender, it can stir fear, shame, or insecurity. These conversations are rarely just about sex; they’re about visibility, safety, and belonging. In our work together, I hold space for these moments with compassion—not judgment or pressure.
Context Matters—and So Does Curiosity
Many LGBTQIA+ and queer couples carry the weight of past or ongoing stigma. Others don’t. Both are valid. What matters is having a therapist who doesn’t erase or over-focus on those experiences.
I don’t assume that being queer is the problem in your relationship, and I don’t pretend it’s irrelevant. My approach integrates attachment science and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you see the patterns beneath the pain and build new ways of reaching for each other.
Understanding the context that shaped you helps us change what’s possible between you.
Available Nationwide – Online
You deserve a therapist who understands both relationship science and queer experience.
LGBTQIA+ Couples Therapy sessions are available virtually across the U.S. and in person in Portland, Oregon.
If you’re ready to rebuild safety, trust, and connection, explore a focused Couples Therapy Intensive—equivalent to a month of therapy in one powerful day.
Schedule a consultation today to begin reconnecting in a space that fully honors who you are and how you love.