High Conflict Couples Therapy
What if repair didn’t feel out of reach?
Working With High-Conflict Couples
I specialize in working with couples who feel like they’re barely hanging on.
Maybe everything feels like a fight.
Maybe you’re stuck in a loop of yelling, stonewalling, chasing, blaming, or silence.
Maybe someone’s already halfway out the door.
This is the part of the relationship where most people start to wonder:
Are we too far gone? Are we just toxic?
But what I see is something different.
High conflict doesn’t usually mean there’s no love.
It usually means there’s too much pain—and no safe way to talk about it.
Underneath the fighting, there’s often heartbreak that’s never been named. Stories about being unwanted. Rejected. Not good enough. Like nothing you do will ever be right.
I help couples get out of survival mode and into something more honest.
Not by forcing apologies or handing out blame, but by helping each partner see what they’re really fighting for—and what they’re terrified of losing.
I’m not afraid of strong emotions, old wounds, or sharp defenses.
I know what it’s like when everything feels like too much.
And I know how to help you find the way back to each other—without losing yourself.
Is it too late for therapy if we’re already talking about breaking up?
No. It’s not too late. But we have to work differently.
When a couple comes in already considering separation, I treat the relationship like it’s in the ICU. That means we slow things down, strip away the noise, and get honest—fast.
Sometimes you’re here to fight for the relationship.
Sometimes you’re here to figure out if it can be saved.
Sometimes you're just here because it’s the only next right step that makes sense.
My job isn’t to convince you to stay or go. It’s to help you understand what’s really happening between you.
Why I Use EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
When couples are in distress, they don’t just fight about chores or text messages or who said what.
They’re fighting for connection—usually in ways that make connection harder to reach.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples understand the cycle they’re stuck in—what happens under the surface when one person gets louder and the other pulls away, when anger masks fear, or when silence is mistaken for not caring.
EFT doesn’t just teach couple communication therapy.
It helps you feel safer with each other.
And when people feel safe, they soften. They listen. They risk being honest again.
That’s why EFT works—especially in high-conflict relationships. It’s not about behavior management.
It’s about helping you see the pain and protection underneath the pattern—and learning how to reach for each other in a new way.
High conflict couples therapy is structured, it’s research-backed, and it works even when couples feel like they’ve tried everything else.
