Sex Isn’t the Problem. Silence Is.
Sex isn’t just about technique.
It’s about safety. Voice. Permission. And what your body has learned to expect—or protect against—when you’re close.
Let’s Talk About What No One Taught You How to Say
When sex is painful, confusing, or nonexistent, it can shake the whole foundation of a relationship.
You might start to wonder:
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Are we broken?
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Why do I always feel rejected—or pressured?
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What if I never want it again?
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What if we want totally different things?
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Why do I feel so alone in bed with someone I love?
Most couples wait too long to get support around sex.
By the time they reach out, they’re often buried under years of hurt, misunderstanding, silence, or shame.
That’s where this work begins—not with fixing you, but with understanding you.
This Isn’t Just About Sex. It’s About What Sex Represents.
I work with couples navigating:
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Emotional shutdown and physical avoidance
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Pain, discomfort, or fear related to sex
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Affairs or sexual betrayal recovery
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Recovery from sexual trauma or religious sexual conditioning
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The impact of parenting, chronic stress, or body image on intimacy
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Feeling unseen, undesired, or disconnected in the bedroom
You don’t have to perform.
You don’t have to “get it together.”
You just have to be willing to get curious about how your sexual relationship became what it is—and what it could become.
What Sex Therapy Looks Like
With certified sex therapist Hanna Basel:
This isn’t about pressuring you to “get back to it.”
It’s about creating enough safety to ask honest questions—without blame, shutdown, or urgency.
In our work together, you’ll learn how to:
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Understand your current sexual dynamic without shame
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Talk about sex in a way that doesn’t lead to collapse or conflict
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Rebuild trust and emotional safety—especially after rupture or trauma
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Explore wants, needs, and boundaries without coercion or defense
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Slow down enough to feel what’s actually happening in your body
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Create a version of intimacy that works for both of you—not just one
Sex Is a Mirror, Not a Scorecard.
Whatever’s showing up in your sex life is trying to tell you something.
About closeness. About power. About fear. About how safe you feel being fully known.
We’ll follow that thread. With compassion, honesty, and no agenda except understanding what’s real for you.
Ready to start this conversation?
Whether you’re struggling with desire, shame, disconnection, or overwhelm, you don’t have to figure it out in the dark.
Issues Addressed In Sex Therapy
• Desire Discrepancy
• Infidelity (Reclaiming Your Sexual Connection)
• Sexual Trauma (Healing from Sexual Abuse or Rape)
• Sexual Interest & Arousal Disorders
• Sexual Pain and Medical / Physical Challenges to Sexual Relationships
• Female Orgasmic Disorder
• Delayed Ejaculation
• Erectile Disorder
• Emotional Disconnection
• Sexless Marriage or Relationship
• Couples Counseling after Sex Addiction Treatment.
• Counseling for Sexual Shame or Fear of Sex
• Therapy for Sex, Sexuality and Spiritual Issues
• Sex After Having a Baby
FAQ: What If We’re Too Far Gone—or Too Awkward—to Talk About Sex?
“What if I shut down or feel too embarrassed to talk?”
Totally normal. Most people aren’t used to talking about sex—especially not openly, especially not in front of a partner. We’ll go at your pace. No one gets pushed. No one gets shamed.
“What if we want totally different things?”
That’s not a failure—it’s a starting point. The goal isn’t to become identical. It’s to understand each other, reduce resentment, and build a sexual relationship that honors both people. That’s possible, but it requires honesty and flexibility—not perfection.
“What if I’ve experienced trauma?”
Sex therapy with me is always trauma-informed. That means we stay curious about your nervous system, your body’s reactions, and your sense of emotional safety. You’ll never be asked to go faster than you’re ready. No pressure. No pushing. Just permission.
“Is this going to be graphic or uncomfortable?”
Sex therapy is never about watching, demonstrating, or being forced to share private details you’re not ready to. It’s about talking—in a structured, supported way—so you can understand what’s not working and why. You’re always in control of what you share.
“What if one of us wants to come, and the other doesn’t?”
That’s part of the work, too. Sometimes the fear of starting is the clearest signal that something needs tending. If you're not both ready, we can start with one of you. The invitation to grow doesn’t expire.
“Isn’t this stuff supposed to just come naturally?”
Nope. Most people were taught to perform, shut down, or avoid. Sex—especially in long-term relationships—requires attention, communication, and repair. Wanting help doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re brave enough to stop pretending.
